From: Nora Femenia,
Co Author of the The Art of Positive Conflicts
Monday, January 22nd
old disputes still making your heart squeeze, but unsure of the
steps which will bridge the gap and restore the broken bonds?
We all have been in conversations that turned sour: you say
something, the other person hears it in a way that is considered
offensive, then he reacts with a strong put down, you defend yourself
from the unexpected attack, and then we have a shouting match. Suddenly,
you are not in talking terms anymore, trust is gone…It
And these experiences of conflicts escalating into a fighting match leave you:
Confused and Insecure about your Relationship.
Feeling Vulnerable and Defenseless.
With hurt feelings and loss of trust.
Afraid of future interactions becoming attacks.
how did it happen?
Where is all this anger coming from?
How could I get carried away into this painful fight with a person I love?
And there is the pain, the confusion, and the hurt feelings…how could this person that I love so much say such horrible things? Where do we go from here? How to repair the deep wounds left? Is it better to leave or to stay?
This feeling of helplessness while
dealing with personal conflicts is the result of a lack of skills…Of
all the things you have learned at home or attending schools, conflict
resolution techniques were sorely missing. At
best you where taught how to defend yourself, but not how to bridge
the gaps, and build stronger maturing relationships.
There is a lot of positive energy to be tapped through conflicts,
but only if you see them as opportunity to introduce of the necessary
changes you both need to make to live better. Once you
understand the true meaning of your conflicts, you will be
in a unique position to use this energy for growth in your relationships
in a way you never dream possible. Now you can learn how to turn
around difficult confrontations, and use them to create trust, bond
I created the ebook: “The Art of Positive Conflicts: Transforming Confrontation into Relationship Harmony” as result of my experience using dispute resolution methods to improve interpersonal relationships in the family and in the workplace. During my practice of 34 years as a therapist, coach and mediator, I have helped people like you understand and rethink their conflicts in a positive way thus transforming their lives, restoring relationships, and leaving behind negative habits that led to painful confrontations.
Once the basic principles of the interactions where brought to light, they are able to see through the pain, anger and resentment and move on, re-constructing relationships that where solid, full of joy and happyness.
With my experience I have also
realized that the root of the problem is that possibly you
never had the opportunity to learn and understand the necessary
skills to deal with life conflicts. Your parents and teachers
did not have access to this information, and you had to learn what
you apply today by collecting pieces of information, based on “trial
and error” with your own experiences. As in
our society it is not easy to express our feelings and desires,
you were left to guess the real issues inside each confrontation,
without even a chance of validating afterwards what you learned
in the process. And to make things worse, your
partner have the exact same problem!
The problem is, we don't know any better, so we apply the same ineffective techniques over and over again, making the situation worse! It is no surprise that we end up afraid of speaking to each other , running away from confronting other people with respect, and more isolated in the process due to skills that were never developed. You are not alone, millions of us have been raised in an environment where we were told to deny or avoid conflicts, never to solve them.
If your relationship is suffering from each confrontation and not only the issues are left unsolved, but you also have to deal with the pain of the dispute, this book is definitively what you need. There are now several excellent techniques which do work to solve our differences, and this book will give you all the necessary tools, so you can have the right frame of mind and skills to successfully solve disputes, improving your relationships in a way you dare not to dream before.
"The turn around in our relationship has been
eight years of living together, we were at odds end; I was
closed and distant and she was acting really depressed. I
could not trust that she would listen to me, and she was acting
more and more scared of me...But the idea of separation was
even worse. Getting some help was not easy, because for my
friends, leaving her was a slam dunk decision. I had to look
around and find some help with my way of framing my thoughts
in my conversations with her, in the Positive Conflicts ebook.
What a difference it made! At last, both had some hope that
we could communicate at a more personal level, and she began
trusting me, and opening up on what was her disappointment
with me. Thanks to heaven, I was able to solve that issue,
only because I did listen! "
Albert G. (Telluride, CO)
You can't afford to waste one more second in useless suffering.
Don't waste another moment on ineffective methods causing your relationships more harm than good. You have already tried whatever you learned:
- Denial, Silence or Avoidance, which caused you more problems to begin with.
- Friendly advice that put you en positions of either giving up or imposing your power over other people; thus causing you to be left again alone and behind.
- Asking the other to change (Why should they??)
- Thinking that all you need is love for your relationship to work.
But You're still stuck with the same old unresolved arguments and problems in your relationship. Now it is time to ditch that old way of quarrelling, that is destroying the love link day after day.
Just because you have love for your partner doesn't mean you can stop the fighting and having disagreements, because you don't know how to deal with built up anger. Don't forget the painful words said to each other in the heat of a fight, because once they have been said they can never be taken back, not even with a "I'm sorry"! And we remember for a long time the sting of a hurtful put down! In fact, relying on continuing in the same way as you are now, will frustrate both of you and end up putting more stress and pressure on your relationship, making it impossible to make changes!
more of what you will find in "The Art of
Positive Conflict s..." ebook:
- How to communicate different positions with respect.
- How to use conflict to deepen your relationship and
appreciate better what the other has to give.
- What the rules for fair fighting are, and how you
can apply them.
- Why arguing is a waste of time--and the amazingly
simple secret to get around it.
- How to become a team when really listening, even when
you feel like confronting.
- Why “winning” a fight is so destructive
to a relationship. You need to avoid winning!
- How to deal with disputes escalating out of control.
- How to make paradigm shifts (literally, quantum leaps!)
in the relationship.
- Much, much more about how to transform your communication.
- In short, how to have excellent relationships.
- Lack of Reciprocal Trust.
- Lack of Focus on Search for a Solution .
- Excessive Posturing, Fighting and Insulting.
- Unresolved Past Conflicts lingering in your present situations.
- Ineffective or Counterproductive Communication.
- Inability to Demonstrate Affection or
You know that this issues can destroy your
marriage, partnership or a family relationship in no time at all, if not addressed properly. Now you can have a fresh approach and a
new tools to rescue your relationships. The methods proposed
in the book are easy to apply, leaving you in a position to make most of your current relationship issues disappear from your daily worries.
what some of the readers of "The
Art of Positive Conflicts.." readers are saying:
am amazed with your fresh and direct approach! After reading
POSITIVE CONFLICTS, I have a whole new outlook on how I
was "attacking people" in my relationships….
without having the least idea of what was going on! Now,
I am prepared to apply the fair fighting techniques in order
to have a good marriage. I tried the techniques also at
work, and they produced beautiful effects on my co-workers,
because now they listen to me".
--M.M. Syracuse, N.Y.
“I have been perceived as a difficult person all
my life, and now I was able to identify what was wrong in
my approach to others….What a turn-around! My relationships
have begun to reverse 180 degrees and moving in the RIGHT
direction! Now I can really listen, see the other point
of view, negotiate better...This is the way I always wanted
to connect with others, so my heartfelt thanks to you”.
--N.P. Washington, DC
“I had some different ideas about being
in conflicts fearing that it always included losing your
loved ones.......in POSITIVE CONFLICTS am very happy and
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me otherwise. It can assert what I think without being afraid
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--C.M. New Orleans,
“I was a little skeptical of the idea of 'positive
conflicts', (how could it be? conflicts are always destructive
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--T.N. Naples, FL.
“I always assumed that I
would be unhappy in my marriage, that nobody could get all
the respect; space and love needed, because those ideas
were too romantic and not based on reality. I’ve read
some other books, but your ideas are radically different
from the others. I’ve never read anything like it.
Now, things are slowly improving. I finally think that I
can control in a positive way what happens!”.
--B.D. West Palm Beach
And this letter about a "hopeless
“My husband had told me that he wanted to live by
himself after 26 years of marriage, and I was devastated,
because I knew that we were fighting too much, saying destructive
things and in completely opposite sides of the issues. I
was feeling despondent, lonely and terrified of the future
even before his notice. I cried for almost a week, before
calming down and beginning to think on what to do to save
my marriage. I went to my priest and then to a counselor,
and both were adamant on helping me to accept the situation,
which to them was hopeless. They even suggested that he
had another person waiting for him......
I told my children that I did not want a divorce, and I
would behave differently if I had the techniques. I found
your ebook, so immediately I began reading it and making
sense of what was my mistaken behavior. When we got together
to discuss the future, I asked him to give me, and the marriage
another chance. I was trying the techniques with him, then
and there! Even in a tentative way, the techniques had some
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and understanding what he was saying to me to his complete
satisfaction, all this years! He has also discovered that
I have things to say to him, after being silent for so long,
due to my fear. This approach has changed me from despair
to hope. I know it will involve lots of changes, but keeping
him and our marriage are worth it. I gave the book to him,
so we can both use the fair fight piece. With my gratitude,
Wendy in Salt Lake City.”
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